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It's so funny as you get older, as you become more introspective and are able to see pieces of your parents in your personality, your way of life, how you parent your own children. Sometimes, you're like "OH MY GOD I HAVE TO CHANGE THAT" and others, you think: I totally got that from my Mom. 
                                                            Mom and I, circa 1982-ish

I see it replicated in the next generation right before my eyes. My daughter not only has my face, but is my personality through and through. But where did MINE come from? Well, primarily I believe my personality traits come from my Dad. Like being a smartass, needing to figure EVERYTHING out (he is in law enforcement, I'm from the emergency room) and being an introvert (but extroverted when social situations call for it. Like being a sheriff).

But what came from Mom? When I really think about it, it's a lot of the things I love about myself (and yes it's good for the soul to love y…
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That One Time I Met That Guy

"All I knew this morning when I woke
Is I know something now, know something now I didn't before
And all I've seen since 18 hours ago is green eyes and freckles and your smile
In the back of my mind making me feel like....
I just want to know you better
Know you better, know you better now" --Taylor Swift




Four years ago today I woke up, changed.
The day before, I'd gone on the last first date of my life, and I just KNEW. 

I just knew. 

It may seem silly to celebrate the anniversary of a first date, but for us, it meant more than usual.
We'd been battered and bruised by people who never deserved us. 
We'd taken a chance with online dating and were both just about to cancel our accounts when my picture caught this gentleman's eye. 
He sent over the obligatory questions.
I answered.
He emailed.
I answered. 
He called..
I talked.
And talked and talked and talked. 
For the next month, we talked. I liked him "a really lot" I like to say, and I hadn't even met hi…

A Fly On My Wall!

Welcome to a Fly on the Wall group post. Today 9 bloggers are inviting you to catch a glimpse of what you’d see if you were a fly on the wall in our homes. Come on in and buzz around my house.

Buzz around, see what you think, then click on these links for a peek into some other homes:
Baking In A Tornado                  http://www.BakingInATornado.com Menopausal Mother                     http://www.menopausalmom.com/ Searching for Sanity                 http://singlemumplusone.blogspot.com Spatulas on Parade                    http://spatulasonparade.blogspot.com/ Never Ever Give Up Hope                   http://batteredhope.blogspot.com Bookworm in the Kitchen                http://www.bookwormkitchen.com/ TaylorLife                    http://www.TaylorLife.com Cynful Thoughts                      http://hercynfulthoughts.blogspot.com Evil Joy Speaks                        http://www.eviljoyspeaks.com

My son is 14. Yet somehow it comes as a complete surprise to him EVERY MORNING that he has t…

Things I Absolutely Love Right Now.

First off, I have to just brag for a little minute. My last post clearly struck a tone with people and was shared and commented on and read by....wait for it....5,400+ People so far! It hit on the right website, one about the impossibilities of attempting to co-parent with a narcissistic ex, and it TOOK. OFF. So thanks to all who sent comments! So many people said "thank you" or "I'm crying" because it resonated. Super cool.

Anyway, with loads of cremation talk and memorial planning and ghost interactions (YES IT'S TRUE) I've had of late, I decided to lighten things up and talk about the things I Just Love Right Now. Strolling through shitstorms can require some redirection of your mind and appreciation for the beautiful, yummy and/or fun things around you. 


1. TheRoasted Vegetable Salad with some Riesling at Sauce. We love Sauce and frequent it on our solo weekends when we want something fresh and light. It's DELISH.



2. Being a PACU nurse. I made …

Why I Don't Have To Take Pictures With The Ex "For The Children", And You Don't Either.

Recently there's been a post going around that talked about how these Two Divorced Individuals were So Great because They Took A Picture Together With Their Kid Every Year. 

And then came the comments from the ignorant:

“This is how EVERYONE should do it!”
“Those parents are doing it right!”
“There is no reason that every parent shouldn't do this! If you don't you're selfish!”

"This is PUTTING THE KIDS FIRST, KUDOS!"

There has been article after article about how wonderful it is when exes are best pals, sharing birthday parties, sitting together at events and games, and the like. It's great for those who can. One side of my own situation gets along in spite of the awful history, (but with boundaries in place), one side has repeatedly caused so much harm through a suspected disorder, lies, revenge, accusations and court that there is no possibility of common ground. Condemning people who are willing but UNABLE to effectively "co-parent" is ignorant.

IF …